Good advice. My only issue with this is how can I do a roadmap of actions when it comes to his USPS Retired Mail Carrier Funny Retirement Postal Worker T-Shirt relapsing/needing help for the rest of his life. That is an aspect that cannot be controlled by my or my husband’s actions. His only action, I guess, can be to say he will not support him, but my issue with this approach is if his brother happens to relapse say 5-10 years down the line and my husband supports him financially at that point, I stayed with him so long just to be screwed from that aspect.
He comes from Korean culture where you must care for your elders and family, that’s a big reason why I doubt he can change. Maybe he can say that in the present moment, but I feel if it came down to the moment he would revert to the values instilled in him from birth.
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If you give him what he wants first, no. He will mever change. Leave and disentagle everyrhing firat and wait for him to make the USPS Retired Mail Carrier Funny Retirement Postal Worker T-Shirt before you consider going back. Therapy, and untangling your finances from his draining family being the first of the demands. After that, I would make the demand that he move back to where you want as the next demand. If he is serious about not wanting a divorce, he will follow through. You did not sign up to be enmeshed in this family the way he wants you to be. He needs to show he will change or accept the divorce, because this is not a sotuation in which you feel secure in your relationship. He has shown time and again that he will pick his family over you. If he really can change, he needs to show not tell.