If the child’s mom does not want to use a title, then you would just use this babysitter when the child is with you. You could let the sitter know your child will only be needed on certain days- the ones you have physical custody and work on the same day. Make sure you use a state certified daycare or state certified in-home daycare. It is hard to imagine a judge finding a person in contempt for utilizing a state certified sitter while the child is in your custody and care. That’s just responsible parenting. Now, all that being said, this is a general, legal perspective from an Iowa licensed attorney addressing issues a person in your position might face. To get specific legal advice, you need to consult an attorney who is licensed in your state and who can thoroughly review your case.
I respect others opinions about the title of childcare centers, but as a person with multiple degrees and extensive experience in psychology and early education as well as 3 grown children and now 2 grandchildren, I disagree. A child raised in the company of adults has a greater opportunity to develop social skills (caveat- depending on the adults social skills!) then in a group of the same aged child. No two year old ever taught another two year old anything. Nature designed the most beneficial arrangement within the dimension of family. Multiple age children where the older one teaches one who in turn responds to the younger child. Sans that, research has indicated being raised without other children present, a child tends to have more advanced language and verbal abilities as well a higher IQ. Acknowledging learning to be polite, gracious and generally demonstrating ‘good behavior’ rests on the merits of the adults with the child. And all the seemingly only achieved by hands on, socially interactive, physically active learning can be accomplished outside a preschool classroom.