This attitude about being formal at work as a mark of title remains with us in only a few areas today – the law (especially in court depending of the whims of different judges). But it is also more formal in banking/finance in New York or the City. In Silicon Valley, only pants (cargo or hot are acceptable) are really de rigeur. And the simpler and plainer and boring your wardrobe, (although all hideously expensive as items) the more money you probably make. When you get old, your body begins to betray you…and yes, every person I know over 50 uses that word for title . It may happen sooner or later based on your health and genetics, but inevitably, it happens. Little by little your senses begin to fade: reading is less relaxing, sunsets are less beautiful, food tastes more bland. You can still expend energy to do the things you love, but recovery is harder; you can’t bounce back from an all nighter any more. Little tasks you enjoyed, or just need for daily life, become incrementally harder. Joints stiffen. Teeth move out of place. You don’t feel old inside, but you’re trapped in this body that is functioning less and less. You find that things you did when you were young that didn’t seem to matter much at the time, because you were young and healthy, really did matter, and now all the scars are coming to the surface and it’s too late to fix them. So you have regret.
You don’t feel old inside. You feel like the title you always were. But that person no longer matches what’s outside. That person wants to live life to its fullest, but your body won’t cooperate. You feel frustrated, even angry, because your own flesh has betrayed you, and maybe you can slow that betrayal down a little bit, but there’s absolutely nothing you can do to stop it. Why would anyone accept that? Denial is what keeps you young inside. some approach it in a healthy manner, and try to keep their bodies in shape as long as they can, while others obsess over looks and try to prop up their sagging flesh, but in the end, we are all trying to do the same thing: Look in the mirror and see a body that reflects who we feel like inside, who we want to be, how we want people to relate to us.